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Thoughts On Validation – What Makes You, You?

Thoughts On Validation

A few days ago, a subject came up about someone else and how they must feel about themselves. My Mumz said the persons self esteem must be rock bottom because the only validation she seeks is online. Below are a few of my thoughts on validation.

After giving it some thought, I have reason to believe there are a wide variety of ways people seek validation. Let’s examine a few of them starting with the biggest first.

Money In The Bank

Money – Lets face it, those with money feel validated and like they are special. They have either worked for their money or they have inherited it through their family. Therefore, they are the most privileged among the humans. Because, they have special validation, because they have the power and the money. Those with the most money need no validation from poor people because they are above them.

Having Employment

Having A Job – This one is nice. You get validation from making your living and from the work that you do. It is really one of the best ways to feel valid. If you love your job and are making money at what you do then you feel a sense of accomplishment and like you have validation from doing good work.

Having Love In Your Life

Having A Significant Other – Having someone in your life that is willing to commit their whole life to you. Let’s face it, having a warm loving relationship gives people a sense of validation. Having someone that is willing to marry you and have your children is a great way to feel valid. It will make you feel like a man, it will make you want to do better because you want to make their lives better.

Having Family That Loves You – Having relationships that are in good working order and having peace of mind that there is nothing you could ever do that would make them not love you, this has a sense of security to it. Its a form of validation. Everyone needs to have family that loves them.

Having A Few Good Friends

Having A Few Good Friends – This gives you a sense of belonging and having meaning in your life. If you lack all of the above, then having a few good friends will help make up for the hurt of being poor, alone, and jobless. If you have none of the above, you are a special kind of problem.

The Problem

In my life, they have withheld the affection of giving me the validation I needed. But the realization that I don’t need their approval is such a feeling. Human society is set up so everyone needs some kind of validation and sense of belonging to live a happy life. When they deliberately withhold those things to get you to conform to their evil ways, you have to make the choice to cut them loose.

I’ve been nineteen years without a job, friends, or significant other. Been isolated, poor, and abused for a very long time. My family doesn’t care about the work I perform, and it doesn’t earn any kind of living.

I’ve decided that the human race has lost my respect.

I certainly don’t need validation from the human race that I’m any good. They couldn’t live my life. That is for sure. No one would have lived through what I’ve been through. It has almost killed me a few times.

So on matters of validation, the human race has a lot of things that make them feel valid, having money, having jobs, having love in their life, and having a dog.

What They Lost

Therefore, what they have lost is their humility and what they were supposed to be, which is human kind. They have been cruel to me. Wish it would have been better. I sure could have used some help. No one was willing to extend the offer.

Humans are victims of the insane. They couldn’t think if they wanted to.

In conclusion, what I think of them is below average. Because of the way they have treated me. They got what they wanted, they hurt me a lot. Wish they could have been kind. The world is a sick place. Seek your own salvation; friend see to it.

Those are some of my rough thoughts on validation, there is more!

Written by Christopher Thomas, founder of MyDigitalChaos.net

This post has been edited to make it kinder.

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Idea: Sleeping In Comfort

Ponder This

There is an idea that I have pondered for several years now. Well let’s be honest, maybe closer to about ten years now. People would laugh and think it’s the dumbest idea they have ever heard. However before you judge the idea, I want you to imagine it.

It would have to feel like being weightless. Almost. In a sense it would be floating, so although it’s not truly weightless, it would have some specific qualities about floating. Now to the meat of the idea. The bed will be made with magnets and engineered  to levitate. While using magnets to hold the frame in one very specific place. It wouldn’t have to float high, or far. It would only have to be possible that it touches nothing connected to the floor, wall, or ceiling.

Think About It

If this would be possible to build in a way that would be totally safe. The coolest bed ever made would float without touching anything while gravity does its thing. While being engineered and well made, it would likely only be installed by professionals. It would however be something that is totally unique and that would be hopefully a very good nights rest.

There would have to be a mattress so that it would be comfortable, and pillows to make it feel good. The main idea is that it wouldn’t be touching the ground, the walls, or the ceiling in any way.

Also it shouldn’t bounce when you get into bed. It’s got to be stable. Think about this, imagine it. Build it. Because I want one. If it’s not possible now, maybe in twenty years. I’m not sure what would be required to engineer such things, I only know it has to be made.

Maybe we could get some space engineer to build one for us. Otherwise my only other option would be a flight into space where I could be truly weightless, but that is the topic of other blog posts and too much detail to go into for this article.

Thanks!

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Text File from 2010 – Pizza Delivery

Pizza delivery….

I’ve started talking about people that don’t exist, making up stories I find to be funny; this is one such example.

There is this hot red head she stands 5’9″ and has enough grit to take the finish off sand paper. She drives a gray Ferrari at a hundred and eighty, never bothers to look twice; pulls in and guns it.

She has a schedule to keep that comes with no excuses, twenty pizzas every half an hour; don’t you know she works a five hour shift.

Only delivers yellow box pizzas, not available in California. The pizza delivery girl is packing, and were not just talking pizza.

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How Do We Win Your Hearts?

Why The Problem?

Why do we have these problems? First of all the world has become a cruel place to live, when we lack care. There is however hope. We need to advance as a society, not just five or ten years. As a whole we need to advance a hundred years or more in the span of just one year. Humans aren’t able to do it. They are however going to need our help. If they want to survive, then something has to be done.

Most of these people are living with the mindset from a hundred years ago. Therefor we need change and in big ways. Too many people watching TV and not enough people that are willing to get up off their butts and do something about it. However you have been trained to think isn’t working, please redefine what you consider viable.

Right now, I mean right now; creative people all over the world are screaming to be heard. While we are screaming for someone to listen to us. We want someone to notice, we want people to care. What we want is for people to stop hurting each other and start showing some love. The fact that we want consideration, isn’t too much to be asked for. Furthermore we come from all different walks in life, we are everyone and no one. Not only is there a way but we must find a way to be heard as a whole.

Are We Communicating?

It seems the people that we are trying to reach do not speak the same language, or may even talk in code. It’s unknown. Hence what we are asking is that they stop treating us like we are not good enough to be shown love and kindness. They need to start listening to our message.

As a group, we are a whole. First of all we deserve to be heard. We want peace and we want to be treated with respect. The problem is that too many people are being abusive to us. We are tired of hurting like this. As a whole we want our voices to be heard. We want a better world for everyone. Don’t tell us it’s not possible. It can be done. It is possible and not only possible, but practical.

Our needs must be met. Everyone’s needs must be met. Too many people are being broken, abused, and neglected. And this trend can not continue to happen. The world is tearing itself apart and we need to come together, or there will not be anything left.

In Contrast, let’s start working together as a whole to make life better for everyone. In today’s society it’s possible. For that reason we must grow as a whole. The changes that need made are possible, but only if we change as beings from being mean and cruel to being kind and more understanding.

Change

This is about making big changes. We can work the details out when we get to that point. The problem is that without making these changes, there is going to be no solutions to our problems, and life will only get worse for everyone.

Finally everyone having peace is more important than making lasting enemies.

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Color Photographs: Color Temperature

Color Photographs

As you progress in your experience with photography, one of the things you need to think about is color temperature. You have probably seen the setting on your camera that says: “AWB” this stands for Auto White Balance. Which means that the camera will try to set the color temperature for you. This is fine under some circumstances, but not great if your shooting in the shade or with studio lighting, using a flash, or mixed lighting.

In black and white you don’t have to worry about the color temperature because it doesn’t often make a difference. If your working with color it makes a big difference. If your taking more than just a few photos, having the color balance set correctly will save you a lot of time in Photoshop. One way to get the right color balance is to use a white card in the first image then correct the white balance in photoshop and save the setting. Then apply the setting to the other images that were taken in the same session. I can tell you a way that is better.

Set your camera up, use a white card and expose the first image. Be sure to get the exposure right and just where you want it. Load the first image into Lightroom and choose the develop menu. Select the eye drop tool and set the white balance from the white card in your properly exposed image. You may want to move the color temperature slider around a bit to make it warmer but when you find the right temperature then:  See the color temperature on the right side? Write that number down, then set the white balance in your camera to that same number. Then every image you expose under this condition will be exposed with the right setting without having to correct a lot in photoshop.

When your finished with your photo shoot, be sure to set the white balance in your camera back to “AWB” so it’s ready to go for your next shoot.

The color temperature in Lightroom shows that you have blues on the left of the slider and more yellow on the right of the slider. Your job is to find the right color temperature that looks most natural for your image. Too much blue and it looks cold and unwelcome, especially photographs of people need to be warmer in tone unless your trying to make them look like a villain.

Learn how to see the color temperature in Lightroom and Photoshop, this will add to your abilities in color photography and will enhance the look of your photographs.

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Read This!!!!!

Drinking Sapphire Wine

Hey Here are some idea’s. These are for those of us who are tired of the ways of being locked into something we don’t like. The idea itself is nothing new. However I want to bring it back to the light for all of us to think about.

What if we could choose any body, sex, and options with something simple like a reboot of our soul. Therefor if we didn’t have to do something stupid like having to die, or give birth or fight some mad mans bloody war.

What if we wanted to be male? No problem. What if we wanted to be female? No problem. What if we could choose our looks, makeup, and styles unique to each of us. Then if we would be able to do such without having to die, take it up the butt or pay for it with the blood another war.

We Want Peace

The book that brings this thinking to light is called, “Don’t Bite The Sun” by Tanith Lee. It’s a great idea, and therefor could be made so everyone can have one mind and soul. This is however possible to do without loosing our memories, thoughts, or spirit.

We want a better world where the software works with the hardware, not the dumb shit we got now. Sure it should be real, however it’s got to be worth having for our generation, for our future, and for our loved ones.

Death and suicide would be a thing of the past and we could live with a currency that paying was just watching enough tv for thirty seconds. Why not?

Love What is Possible and Think Free

I have been trying to get people to think, to use their minds, and to be more creative. Many of my efforts have failed. Hence because this is my goal to reach the minds and hearts of those that can dream for something that is within our reach. The problem is that they won’t let us live, and that is reason to not let them rule.

Finally please share this message and send it to those who will wake up and start thinking what could be possible and how we could be living and leave this war, violence, and their greed to die with this world.

Thanks.

See my post about one of The Greatest Ideas Ever!

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Knowing The Path and Walking The Path

Enlightenment an Essay

Finding enlightenment can not be understood through teaching. No matter how many times you read this essay, you will not become enlightened as per se. You may be able to find a path that will lead to enlightenment. The journey is strictly up to you as your own being. That said, take this as you find it as suited to your own tastes.

Most people find thinking a difficult task. Some even feel the act of thinking is painful. Perhaps society has made the very act of thinking so difficult that most people prefer to avoid it all together. I have found that thinking can be painful emotionally and mentally.

To achieve enlightenment requires that one be able to endure a great amount of that kind of pain. The process may be worth while, but why re-invent the wheel if a simple teaching would not solve the problems with the added avoidance of unnecessary pain and suffering?

The problem is that most people are hard headed and without some amount of discomfort and pain they will not be able to experience the essence of the teaching. That said, you understand that mediation is only an exercise in controlling your thoughts and the amount of pain necessary to attain understanding. It’s not the pain that brings the understanding, but the effort that is put forth.

Training

As any athlete would tell you it takes a lot of pain in training to have the endurance of winning a competition or event. Likewise true understanding requires sacrifice of personal self and sacrifice of comfort to attain.

True understanding is common yet unrealized. Many people wonder why they have pain but don’t think of the cause of the pain and only seek comfort to the suffering. But to have true understanding a person would avoid the problem that causes the pain in the first place. So how do you find enlightenment without suffering the pain of thinking painful thoughts?

Well somethings are possible and if you’re an exceptional person you may be able to attain such a feat without suffering more than a mere headache from the effort put forth. Perhaps an extraordinary person could achieve such a feat, perhaps. I know that I would like to save you that pain that I have come to know to arrive at this point. While I may have attained a deeper understanding, and perhaps true enlightenment to a degree. If I can save others from hurting, perhaps there is a way.

No one wants to read everything I have ever talked about or written or said. No one wants the reward without the effort, or that is to say everyone wants the reward without the effort.

Beyond all teachings, there are just a few basic points. Be kind in word and deed without using or resorting to harsh words. Enjoy what you have without feeling the need for always to improve or gain more. A humble person may have less and be more happy than those who are too prideful.

Understanding The Path

Understand simple things and simple principals. Without rushing to conclusions you will find that everyday until the day you die is a learning experience that you can benefit from. With that said, don’t let a day go by that you don’t learn or think something new. May your pain be minimal and your joy be great.

The biggest mistake you can make is to think you are an expert and to rule out every possibility that you don’t agree with in the process. Because true understanding and enlightenment is more than what an expert can understand but less than a common sensible person will do by instinct. Study yourself before you pass judgement on someone else.

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The Story of Valdership

A parable

“Teach me how to think like you think, please.” The college freshman requested of his philosophy teacher. The professor looked for a moment into the sky and said, “I could no more teach you how to think like me, than it would be possible to teach you to think like a baboon.”

The boy took a sigh and looked forlorn. The teacher sensing his frustration added, “I could show you how to think for yourself. So regardless of what you are you could be a thinking person. That would be much better.”

Answers

“Yes please kind sir, that would be a gracious gift.” The professor took a seat and began by speaking. He talked  about the differences between having thoughts which is common and controlling your thoughts in a civilized manner.

“The thing to be aware of is when thoughts create emotions.” The professor said in a matter of factly way. For instance lets say that I said something in class that makes you mad. And you stay mad and angry about what I said for three or four days.

Then the next time you come to my class, I say something else that makes you mad and you stay angry about that for four or five days. In essence what I have done is psychologically manipulated you into staying angry. If it makes you angry until you come back to my class, in which time the process starts all over again.

How to Grow

Now a wise person would let go of the anger and learn the lesson from the example instead of staying angry. But the emotional feeling of being angry keeps you from sorting out your thoughts. And as long as i keep making you angry then your thinking will not be able to change to learn the lesson.

The anger in your heart makes you have more thoughts that in turn fuels more feelings of being angry. Thus stoking a cycle of feelings and thoughts that if not stopped will result in your demise.

The truth is it’s no different than what the media of today’s world is doing. It’s designed to keep people stupid. It’s designed to keep their emotions stirred up to prevent them from thinking.

Keeping you from thinking a  thought through to completion. If you really want to know how to think! You have to move from ‘Just having thoughts.’ that pop into your head to actually thinking thoughts.

Going from having thoughts to thinking

That makes sense right?

Well when you explain it in that way, yeah it kind of does.

Generally a persons output matches their input, so if you get bad input then your going to have bad output. It’s like the computer programmers old motto, “Garbage in, Garbage out.”

The difference between us is that one person can learn to understand. If you are trained to know which is garbage and which is useful bits of information. Then you can be effective. Always take the good training you get a do better with it. While always remember the bad training you get and don’t do that crap.

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Make Good Use Of Your Time!

Please make good use of your time. You are the only person that can do it. If your not getting the results you want, then look at what results you are getting and change what you do until you get the results you want.

Everyone has a limited amount of time. You have to keep trying, keep believing, and dream big. The truth is, no one is going to do it for you. It’s up to each of us to make it right. It’s up to each of us to make it better for the next person that comes along.

What kind of world do you want for the next ten generations? Start today to create the world of your dreams. You will have to get the support of others to make it come true, start today. Think of a plan and get others to support your goals. Maybe they are not just your goals, but everyone’s goals. Find a common shared goal, and work towards that.

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What is Truth?

Thinking

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in the spirit of beowulf

From across the oceans upon stormy waters arrived the men of fame. The legendary tronwolf introduced himself saying, “We are geeks, programmers from old, we have come from the grid to rid your land of a monster.” the wise king replied, “How can you rid our land of these windows?”

Tronwolf replied, “We shall go through the matrix and fight them at their source.” The king thought about these words a long time before saying, “Tis certain doom to enter the matrix from here, even for a hero.”

Tronwolf from the fold in his armor brings forth an install disk and says, “We’ve brought with us the installer for Macintosh OS X, behold!”

The great and mighty king could have cried from joy that a hero has come from the grid to rid his land of the monster windows. “Oh tronwolf, should you purge our lands from this monster, you shall be remembered always as a hero.”

Tronwolf replied, “Tis not fame we seek, nor your gold, if we die it shall be for glory.”

 

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Help!

I saw the illusion of free will
and sought love and companionship.
Only to suffer torment and pain.

I saw the illusion of death
and sought life despite it.
Only to suffer torment of death.

I saw the illusion of salvation,
and drown in my own blood.
Only to suffer life again.

If you say I have free will is it truth
or illusion? If it’s illusion they could
hurt me anyway they want I would have
no control over it.

But justice in the universe is not blind.
The universe knows my pain,
The universe knows my suffering,
The universe knows who they are.

When the universe whispers into the living God’s
ears the truth of what has been done, heaven
will send family to my aid. Pray it be soon,
for I’m almost dead. And when the wrong possess might
they try to condemn innocent ones to hells fright.

These are things to be remembered.

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Thinking and Feeling

Importance

When learning your way through your heart and mind, there is one thing that will change your life. To quote the famous philosopher, Aristotle. He said:

It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.

This is really true when searching for your life goals and meaning in your life. You must learn how to separate your thoughts from your emotions.

If you have an emotional response to every thought then you will be very frustrated. However if you can have the thoughts and deal with them one at a time while not allowing every one of them effect your emotions, then you have reached maturity.

Heart mind conflict:

Sometimes you have to go through a long process of thinking everything through without letting it all upset you. Sure you can think anything, be brave enough to do so. Just don’t accept everything you think, and better yet; don’t let everything you think effect your heart.

The mind and heart are separate. Too many people confuse everything that think with an emotion. This is simply not healthy. If you want to be happy you have to let your heart feel love and joy. What your brain does doesn’t have anything to do with your heart.

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Please be aware, this is in no way to say you should think bad thoughts. That is up to your own morals and what you feel is right or wrong. This is only to say that you should be open to all the good possibilities that are available. Your morals determine what you think is right or wrong to think. Please use good judgement.